What is the key source to have a happy and successful relationship?

What is the key source to have a happy and successful relationship?

Hello Everyone!

Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you! Yes, I am back with content on this special day. I just thought it is good that all of you realise what is good in a relationship, or to be particular what makes a relationship successful? How do we know that he/she is the one made for us? I am aware that the present generation is quite open about the relationship status and take things quite lightly.

Most of the current youth want to be in a relationship, just so that they could have a status, or maybe I could simply say that for pleasure and show off. The youth perception of Love and Relationship has been changing constantly, Some of our youth get into a relationship just to get physically connected with each other. I could put this in such a way to make it simpler that, they are into a relationship just to have sexual pleasure with each other.

Some of them think that Marriage is just a license to have sexual pleasure and then when the needs are not fulfilled they end up having divorce. This cycle is quite common in the present generation. This is the sole reason why parents are afraid to say YES to Love Marriages.

Relationships comprises of many things like – Friendship, sexual attraction, intellectual compatibility and of course love. Love is the glue that keeps a relationship solid and strong. But how do you know if you are truly in Love? Here are some signs that could help the younger generation identify what is love and not fall for traps and ruin lives of many. Understand the concept of love before falling for the same.

1.       Love is not Lust:

As the Indian film industry, depicts love as a strong feeling of attraction, like a magnet pulling you towards that person you’ve just met or violins ringing in the background. This is so not the right picture for Love, in fact that’s infatuations to be precise. The nature always is such that opposite sex attract to each other, no matter what. So next time you feel attracted to any opposite gender or for the fact of the current world people of the same world as well, then that’s not love. Love does include sexual chemistry but it differs because it is an emotion that takes time to build. Lust can appear in an instant; love evolves over a period of time as you get to know each other person inside out.

2.       A relationship without love is not love:

You may be immensely sexually attracted to your partner but that doesn’t mean that you are in love. If you haven’t developed a base of love feelings for your partner, then once the sexual spark between you both dies down, you will become bored and then that leads to failure in relationship.

3.       Rome was not built in a day:

As the phrase itself says that the city of Rome was not built in a day, it took years together to build that beauty of its own and known to the world. Similarly, a loving relationship is not built in a day. The threads of love take time to weave together to form a strong bond. It is only as you and your partner share your thoughts and feelings, fears and dreams which take to be the roots for love to build towards each other. So trust the process, do not rush love. It has its own timetable that needs to be respected and not be hurried.

4.       Does Love happen only once?

This misconception of love happens only once is totally false. We talk about “soul mates” but humans are built in such a capacity that love can happen over and over again. If not, we would have never been over our school and college crushes or for the matter of fact even losing a partner over death or divorce.

5.       Compromise, Respect and Kindness:

In a loving relationship, we give to the other without expecting anything in return. Do not keep a count of what you both share. Giving pleasure to our partner gives us pleasure too. When we see our partner happy, we feel the same. When we feel our partner sad or depressed we feel the same. With love comes empathy and emotions as well. When we love someone we are willing to compromise in order to accommodate their needs, but we don’t have to sacrifice our own self in doing this. Remember, that if your partner loves you he would never want you to change, he/she would love you for who you are and what you are despite your flaws. If they wish you to change then beware that’s not love that is control and abuse. When we love, we respect each other and their decisions. We support and guide them if they are right. But, that doesn’t mean that, if they are wrong we do not correct them. We correct their mistakes as well, but yes; note that the mistakes need to be corrected in the right way, without hurting the feelings of your partner.

6.       Sexual Intimacy deepens:

With love sex becomes sacred. Different from the early days, our love making is now deep and holy, a true joining of bodies and minds. Do not use Sex as a means or base of your relationship. It is just to keep the bond of love strong and intense and cannot replace your feeling as love for sure.

7.       Feels Safe:
If you feel safe while you are with your partner then yes, give your partner the same feeling as you receive. The presence of love in the relationship allows us to feel protected and safe as if the other person is safe harbour for us to come home to. With them we feel a sense of security and stability.

8.       Allows us to fight without fear:

Secure in our love relationship, we know we can argue and that it will not break us apart. We agree to disagree and we don’t hold grudges for too long because we don’t like to hold bad feelings towards our partner. Remember to say Sorry when you are wrong, never hold back your feelings and express so that the relationships grows strong.

Strong relationships are continually nurtured with care and communication. Although relationships can take many forms, certain traits have been shown to be especially important for healthy relationships. Both the individuals should feel confident that their partner is willing to devote time and attention to the other, and that they are committed to accommodating the differences and challenges that inevitably emerge. In the 21^st century, good relationships are generally marked by a sense of fairness in the distribution of the chores of maintaining a household. Partners also feel grateful for one another, openly provide and receive affection, and engage in honest discussions about sex. In good relationships, partners always afford their partner of doubt, which creates a sense of being on the same team in life, a feeling that can help couples overcome many difficulties.

Lastly, let me just conclude by saying Happy Valentine’s Day to all. Hope to see you all again soon with another interesting topic to discuss about. Until then, Good Bye!!